It has been a good week for me and The Joy Diet. I had a blast coming up with creative and off-the-wall ideas for achieving my heart's desires. That being said, one particular suggestion in this chapter stopped me in my tracks.
Martha Beck suggests "Perseverate on Your Enemies." Perseverate mean to "mentally focus on one topic to the point of obsession" and here's why:
"It could well be that the reason your thoughts revolve around this enemy is that you're looking in a kind of mirror, one that shows you all the things you think you must not be."
This idea isn't new to me. In fact, I've learned over the last year or so to pay close attention to the people who piss me off, the people I find myself judging most harshly, that there is something important about me and my beliefs being reflected there. (Thank you, Brene Brown.) Taking this view and thinking things through the way Beck suggests has not stopped me from fuming when the self important PTO moms park in the handicap spot at the school, but I did spend a good bit of time thinking about what I might be seeing in the mirror.
My thoughts of
Who does she think she is?
What makes her think her needs are so important?
Why does she think the rules don't apply to her?
have led me to thoughts like this:
How often do I downplay my needs (especially my creative needs) as less important than the needs of others?
What could I achieve if I decided the rules I've imposed on myself no longer apply?
My best and most creative thoughts have come out of this one idea this week. Sometimes the thing that stops you in your tracks, that seems the most impossible, is the very thing you most need to hear.
Stop by Jamie Ridler's The Next Chapter to see more reflections on this week's Joy Diet ingredient.