tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post8169923264987886569..comments2024-03-16T14:37:27.318-05:00Comments on One of Three: What I’m ReadingThe Other Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03618067911224855096noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post-41839285262720414402008-04-26T19:46:00.000-05:002008-04-26T19:46:00.000-05:00Thanks, Laura. I am always happy to get a long com...Thanks, Laura. I am always happy to get a long comment. And I have to say, reading your blog gives me a lot of hope for my own kid's adolescence. I'd like to think we're doing the groundwork now and that we'll have normal separation and conflict but he won't turn into a stranger when he turns twelve.<BR/><BR/>I think a lot of what Digges is saying is that, no one, not a psychologist or the schools, no one knows a child like his mother (or father).<BR/><BR/>I have a lot of faith in my son and the relationship we've built together.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for making me think too!The Other Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618067911224855096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post-33073534522395854592008-04-26T04:52:00.000-05:002008-04-26T04:52:00.000-05:00I do try and remember what kinds of things (drug-d...I do try and remember what kinds of things (drug-dabbling, alcohol, unprotected sex) I experimented with as a teenager and try to pick apart why. I had lower self-esteem than any of my kids, at their present ages (21,15,14). I was much more vulnerable to peer pressure, and I was very anxious that my parents keep their good opinion of me and remain completely in the dark as to some of activities, so there were no open discussions between us. <BR/><BR/>Remembering this stuff, I'm trying to do things a little differently in our family. I do know that when my daughter turned 17 and started asking me more about sex and birth control, and when I took her to her first gynocologist appointment, those were some discussions that I was <I>never</I> comfortable enough to have with my parents. Ditto drinking and drugs.<BR/><BR/>The boys are 14 and 15. I gotta admit, the open discussions are more difficult with them, and my husband's not a big conversationalist. :/ So far, so good, though. The 14yo goes to gaming tournaments with college guys, so he is exposed to more at this age. Still, our relationship was open enough that he was able to ask me about the tournaments and tell me why he really wanted to go. And he trusted that I would listen to him, rather than give a kneejerk "No". Trust is good. :)<BR/><BR/>I'd like to read that book. I'm interested in unconventional parenting and parents who will do what it takes to meet the needs of their kids at any age. Our culture blames so much on the kids these days. Like, they're broken, but, hey man, WE didn't break 'em. Give 'em a pill and fix 'em, doctor.<BR/><BR/>(Sorry so long. Thanks for making me think.)Laura/CenterDownHomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11429332908819366130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post-71351023545438550442008-04-25T16:42:00.000-05:002008-04-25T16:42:00.000-05:00I think Digges would say she's a very unconvention...I think Digges would say she's a very unconventional kind of parent and her solutions are equally unconventional. <BR/><BR/>My boy always "regressed" a little right around his birthday. It's hard to get a little older sometimes...The Other Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618067911224855096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post-91849346912850962322008-04-25T15:30:00.000-05:002008-04-25T15:30:00.000-05:00I'm really hoping that this stuff is caused by bad...I'm really hoping that this stuff is caused by bad parenting--and that I don't fall into the bad parent category! I just find it so hard to imagine, the possible difficulties ahead. We're still dealing with toileting "accidents" around here--gangs, drugs and violence?!<BR/><BR/>I'm now taking a deep breath...all will be well...Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09182248478422009913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post-28185481953116526932008-04-23T21:42:00.000-05:002008-04-23T21:42:00.000-05:00She's not the kind of mother I am (and I bet, not ...She's not the kind of mother I am (and I bet, not the kind you are either) and it's hard not to place some blame but she fights so passionately - it's pretty amazing.The Other Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618067911224855096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1554620410061286429.post-88483906436704696722008-04-23T19:43:00.000-05:002008-04-23T19:43:00.000-05:00Like you, I would do whatever it took, but let's h...Like you, I would do whatever it took, but let's hope that we don't.<BR/><BR/>I will put this book on my library list.Mrs. G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01171997573144385692noreply@blogger.com